The codependency bit makes me cringe. There are so, so many situations where partners are co-dependent, or where one partner can just become dependant on the other entirely. It's not unhealthy. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where someone said to me, well, your handicap is your own thing; I'm just here to 'add to you. I've depended on others my whole life, and I'm not about to be shamed for it or be called unhealthy. F this sh !